How to control children
 | Children need to be controlled and disciplined. They are not born with it. Little by little parents have to learn how to control their children and teach discipline to them. While teaching discipline does take time and practice, it gets easier as children learn to control their own behavior. And best of all, you don't need to hurt your children to control children behavior and discipline them. Parents ask, what is discipline? * Discipline is helping children develop self-control and will power. Discipline is setting limits and correcting misbehavior. Discipline also is encouraging children, guiding them, helping them feel good about themselves, and teaching them how to think for themselves. How to control children Is spanking a useful approach to discipline? * No. Discipline should help children learn how to control their own behavior. Spanking is used to directly control child behavior. Spanking does not teach children how to change what they do, as good discipline should. Spanking can stop a particular behavior for a short period of time, but child will not learn self-control from it. Isn't is easier to just spank my children? * It may seem easy at the time. But babies who are hit often cry louder. Older children who are hit often are learning to solve problems by hitting others. Many parents notice that after a spanking children may settle down for a while, but pretty soon they start misbehaving again. Spanking is considered wrong these days and parents are very limited as to what they can do to physically punish their children and control their children. * If you can avoid corporal punishment please try to do so as this will not discipline your children correctly and will very likely make your children violent nature in the future. But Spanking Teaches Kids Who Is The Boss Right? * Kids do need to know that the adult is in charge. Spanking can teach children to be afraid of the adult in charge. Good discipline teaches children to respect the adult in charge. Respect goes both ways- treat children with respect and let them have some control, and they will respect you and listen to you, So spanking is not necessarily the best method of showing children that the adult is in charge! Won't spanking make my children afraid to misbehave? * It can. Spanking can make children afraid to misbehave, but probably only when you are watching. Children need to learn to control their own behavior even when you are not around to watch them. If I do not spank, then what can I do? * You can do lots of things that will help you control your children - you can help them feel good about themselves, you can show them how a person with self-control acts, you can guide them, you can set limits, you can correct misbehavior by talking to them, and you can teach them how to think for themselves. How to control children |
